- A simple but powerful way to change you from a “glass half empty” person to a “glass half full” person.
- Steal the 3 characteristics of optimistic self talk and reprogramme your brain for positivity and happiness
- The “compartment breaker” technique that optimists use to harness the power of success in one area of their life to other areas
Hey, it’s Dr. Leevi from Wises Road Chiropractic, and in this short video, I’m going to show you 3 simple tips for you to overcome your negative self talk. So you can have more positivity in your life, more happiness, and be more joyful.
I don’t think most people have a problem with being positive or optimistic when things are going well in their life. It’s when things aren’t going really well and we got a lot of negative self talk that people start to struggle. So in this video, I want to introduce you to the concept in positive psychology, which is about managing your negative self talk. And positive psychologists believe that joy and happiness are like any other talent. They can be cultivated and learned. And it really depends on how you deal with your negative self talk.
So let me share with you the 3 P’s to help you overcome your negative self talk and have more happiness.
So when we talk about having characteristics of someone who’s more optimistic, one of the things that researchers have found is the concept of permanence. So when bad events happen to people who are more optimistic, they understand that these bad events aren’t going to last forever and they can change.
Whereas pessimists take a much stronger view of things and look at the bad events that happen in their life as being more permanent.
Second P is pervasiveness. And really what this means is that optimistic people compartmentalize their failures. And they don’t let a failure in one area of their life overflow into other areas of their life. So for example, struggling at work and not having a good time at work or doing a good job, does not mean that you are a bad person at home or outside of work like a bad partner, or friend, or husband, or anything like that. Whereas pessimistic people will allow failures in one area to become all encompassing and flowing into all areas of their life. So a failure at work means that you are a failure outside of work. So at home as a husband, as a father, as a friend. On the flip side when good things happen, optimistic people allow a positive pervasiveness to happen in their life. So if I do really good at work, I break down the compartment of work and I layout that to throw into other areas of my life. So success at work means that I’m a success at home. I’m a success at whatever other things that I am doing. So, pervasiveness.
And the last P is personalisation. So people who have a more optimistic attitude, tend to blame bad events on outside circumstances. So things that are not themselves. Whereas if you are a pessimist, those people tend to blame bad events happening on them. Now you can see that this subtle shift in mindset and the way that we view these negative events, can really make a big difference. If you’re viewing yourself as the reason for failure, sometimes it’s very hard for you to think that’s ever going to change. Whereas if you put the blame on external events, it’s really easy to brush that off and maintain an optimistic attitude and just the idea that this will soon change and this can change. Now this doesn’t mean that you go and you point the finger at everyone when things go bad, but it just means that you take a realistic look at why things didn’t workout for you.
So there you have it. The 3 P’s, which can help you learn to be more optimistic.
So now you got those 3 P’s, permanence, pervasiveness, and personalisation.
So now when you’re hearing that negative self talk in your head, you can run that negative self talk through the three P’s order and turn it around. And this will help you to learn to have a more glass half full attitude so we are more optimistic.
Experiencing more joy and happiness in our life.
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Thanks again for watching and I’ll speak to you soon.